For some reason, it seems humans are more inclined to focus on the negative, rather than the positive. While we appreciate compliments, a single criticism, no matter how small, not only tends to erase the good feeling brought on by the compliment, but makes us angry, frustrated or sad. I had this experience this morning. I ran into a friend of mine, who told me that she started reading my novel last night and couldn't put it down. "Really engaging," she said. Of course, that made me feel great! Less than thirty minutes later, I ran into someone else, who criticized something I did yesterday, behavior that he clearly misunderstood, but his comments were enough to piss me off. At home, I came into my office and sat, staring at my computer screen for 10-15 minutes, so angry that every time I started typing something, I deleted it. Nothing seemed right. Then, I realized what had happened. I decided to ask the Runes how to allow the positive into my life, while letting the negative roll away.
Before I end this post though, I'd like to offer something positive to you. Simply by reading my blog, you have done two positive things. First, you made me feel good by reading my writing. Second, and more importantly, you have given yourself a tool to help you shed negative energy. So, when someone says something negative to you, stop and think about all the positive things people have said to you and feed on that instead.
Have a positively beautiful week.